The self-proclaimed "#1 career blog" was basically telling women to stay away from ENFP men, because we're too flighty, and won't make any money. Well, frankly, when you're 40, angry, and childless because you used the feminist lies as an excuse to be a jerk...I'll say a prayer for you. The proprietor is married somehow. Well, she looked attractive. You can get away with a lot if you're attractive.
Personally, I like myself. As a public service, I thought I would offer a few thoughts on what I know about men, and how they think. (Warning: Some of this might be brutal.)
1. You are not as beautiful as you think you are. Catching his eye doesn't mean squat, in the end. You have to have something else about you that he likes. Otherwise, you're just a hot chick who thinks too much of herself, most likely. Ladies, be nice to the beautiful girls; it really is a curse.
2. Talk less, and listen more. There is no greater mistake than this. If a man senses that you don't care about what interests him, he'll find someone who does. DON'T INTERRUPT!
3. We really don't want to be your friend. Guys find friends in the course of life; we don't seek them out, unless we have to. The brutal truth is that the romantic potential of any relationship with a single woman is the first and primary thing we're thinking about. "Friends" is a category for women we appreciate in some way, but are unavailable or unsuitable.
4. Stop worrying about your body. It really is who you are that matters. Beauty does fade. What a real man wants is a woman who doesn't nag him, and who will back him up when it hits the fan. (Of course, there are males of the species doing otherwise, but who cares?)
5. Don't read women's magazines. Not only will they make you hate yourself, they're not correct. And for those of you who tend toward pride, they'll feed it.
6. Your girlfriends are completely wrong. They probably are jealous, if they tell you anything we don't already know (or you do). One of them likely is attracted to the man you like/are in a relationship with.
7. If a man tells you he's fine with being friends, he's lying. The only exception to this is if he's told you explicitly why he isn't interested. People who've gone past the Romantic Exploration Phase and agree it won't work can be friends, if conditions are right. Big if.
8. The reason a man would lie about being OK with friendship is because he thinks you will change your mind. That's the truth.
9. Flirting works. There is no "innocent" flirting; if you don't want our attention romantically, DON'T DO IT!
10. We men want someone better than we are. We've had to live with our failings all these years; we need someone with the grace to love us more than we do.
That's enough for now.
Personally, I like myself. As a public service, I thought I would offer a few thoughts on what I know about men, and how they think. (Warning: Some of this might be brutal.)
1. You are not as beautiful as you think you are. Catching his eye doesn't mean squat, in the end. You have to have something else about you that he likes. Otherwise, you're just a hot chick who thinks too much of herself, most likely. Ladies, be nice to the beautiful girls; it really is a curse.
2. Talk less, and listen more. There is no greater mistake than this. If a man senses that you don't care about what interests him, he'll find someone who does. DON'T INTERRUPT!
3. We really don't want to be your friend. Guys find friends in the course of life; we don't seek them out, unless we have to. The brutal truth is that the romantic potential of any relationship with a single woman is the first and primary thing we're thinking about. "Friends" is a category for women we appreciate in some way, but are unavailable or unsuitable.
4. Stop worrying about your body. It really is who you are that matters. Beauty does fade. What a real man wants is a woman who doesn't nag him, and who will back him up when it hits the fan. (Of course, there are males of the species doing otherwise, but who cares?)
5. Don't read women's magazines. Not only will they make you hate yourself, they're not correct. And for those of you who tend toward pride, they'll feed it.
6. Your girlfriends are completely wrong. They probably are jealous, if they tell you anything we don't already know (or you do). One of them likely is attracted to the man you like/are in a relationship with.
7. If a man tells you he's fine with being friends, he's lying. The only exception to this is if he's told you explicitly why he isn't interested. People who've gone past the Romantic Exploration Phase and agree it won't work can be friends, if conditions are right. Big if.
8. The reason a man would lie about being OK with friendship is because he thinks you will change your mind. That's the truth.
9. Flirting works. There is no "innocent" flirting; if you don't want our attention romantically, DON'T DO IT!
10. We men want someone better than we are. We've had to live with our failings all these years; we need someone with the grace to love us more than we do.
That's enough for now.
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