Monday, July 15, 2013

The Elephant In The Minivan

Oh, wait. You don't have a minivan. Because you're married, and not having kids. Let's get this out of the way: Contraception is wrong. Look, I get it: You're not Catholic, and you don't care what the Pope says. Feel better now? It's still wrong.

Let me take a moment to express my sympathy and prayers for those who cannot conceive, whether due to temporary circumstances, or permanent ones. We all have paternity and maternity built right into us. We long for this. In fact, I'm glad this is still present in a very flawed way in gay and lesbian couples, harmful as it may be.

Exactly how are you going to fulfill that mandate to "be fruitful and multiply" if you are blocking your own fruitfulness? How are you demonstrating your fidelity to the teaching that "Children are a blessing from the Lord" if you don't have any, and are intentionally preventing it?

Someone was lamenting and joking that Facebook was turning into "Mom-book" with all the baby pictures. I don't mind. To be perfectly blunt, it means we're not going to die.

This is not Sex and the City. Both men and women want to be loved as deep as love can go. How romantic is it to say, "I want to use you for my own sexual pleasure"? "I love the design of your body...for me"? Just think about it.

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