And look, I’m not married. I’ve never been married. I have no children. I didn’t choose that; things just worked out that way. If you must know, I haven’t had sexual intercourse either. I probably should say “coitus,” so I am not arguing with some progressive activist about what “sexual intercourse” means.
But I figured out from influencer videos or something what a “dead bedroom” was. Unless a couple mutually agrees that they don’t want to have sex/coitus anymore (hopefully to pray and serve) this is usually bad. I’ve known enough couples that it’s probably an indicator of trouble, especially for couples who are still able to have children.
Is it really that wild to at least hope that Mr. and Mrs. Vance love each other? That a fourth child yet born at least might indicate that they enjoy each other? Children are definitely not responsible for their parents’ happiness. That’s absolutely true. But wouldn’t any child hope their parents were happy, when they came into being?
As the great American philosopher Will Smith put it to his son Trey, “I know things didn’t work out between me and your Mom/But push come to shove/you was conceived in love.”
Seriously, liberal evangelicals and outright liberal Protestants, stop being so weird. Edit: I am adding to this post what I intend “weird” to mean. In place of that word, I add, “willing to universalize your own traumas as normative.” Trauma and responses to it can lie about reality. That’s why we should have grace for ourselves and others, but never concede that we can, and often should, act against what our trauma responses would tell us, if it’s not reality.
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