Monday, August 26, 2013

Sometimes, I Take It Personally

I would love to be that guy who understands. "Yeah, man. You get married, stuff happens, it doesn't work out. But I tried again, and I found him/her." The truth is, though, I don't. It doesn't mean I hate you, and it doesn't mean I will hope for your eternal worst, obviously. But someone should say it: there is no divorce. Not to God.

There could be all sorts of reasons why you may not live with the person you married. No one should be in danger, if they can avoid it. I can imagine a few scenarios where you might even obtain a civil divorce. But there isn't supposed to be "starting over." Even though I don't believe in Sola Scriptura, the Scripture is clear on what God thinks. Once we understand that even if you leave because of adultery, there is no do-over.

Yes, I'm Catholic. Today, I'm grateful for what the Church teaches, because it put words to what
I have lived through as a child of all this lunacy: God hates divorce.

Declarations of Nullity are not Catholic divorces, by the way. They mean that a putative marriage never took place. I hope and pray that they're not giving these out like cotton candy, because even so, it's less than ideal, and there may be kids who will suffer, even if two people aren't married for real.

I just needed to say that. And yes, I have some stake in this emotionally. I'm sorry that the Truth and my intuition and experience in something contrary to it make me not able to just "go with the flow" on this.

*Lawful separation and other related matters are covered in cc. 1151-1155 in the Code of Canon Law (Latin Rite) and the teaching on marriage as perpetual and exclusive in CCC, 1638.

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