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Well, Actually, Nicole...

I happen to think Columbo is the greatest show and character of all time, so you are cool. Furthermore, Janet Leigh...well, let's just say, I'm a guy, and she wasn't exactly plain-looking in the '50s. Ahem.

But I almost mixed her up with Vivien Leigh, which reminded me of Gone With The Wind. Warning: This is about to be a digression.

Vivien Leigh of course played Scarlett O'Hara. Scarlett is the epitome of the kind of girl I dislike being attracted to, because while she is--how would the average guy say it?--"mind-blowingly hot," she's silly, and she's a tease. When I saw that movie, all I could think was, "Rhett, I get it, man. But if you choose her, you're stupid." She lacks character; she has charm, but in that bad, biblical sense in Proverbs 31. Please tell me I'm not alone.

I don't date a lot, and I would have liked to be married already. God's will be done. But I will tell you flatly: a woman's sexiness is pretty far down the list at this point. I will marry a woman who makes me feel safe to be myself in those things that are good, allows me the space and safety to be wrong and admit it, and guides me toward the Lord.

I should rephrase: It's not that attractiveness is unimportant; it's rather that it's not determinative when you are attracted to (almost) all women.

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