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Maiwwage, As They Say

 A friend from high school just celebrated 26 years. The husband has a great name: Jason. [You are the most self-involved person on Earth.—ed.] I know, right?

My friends are close to being grandparents, at least some of them, and I feel a certain sadness about not being in the game, as it were. But this is your frequent reminder that great and cool people don’t find their person sometimes.

So-called “inter-abled” relationships are really hard. I know. I honestly think That One Time didn’t work because of the intersection of disability, employment discrimination, and ableism.

Do I think ableism and discrimination had something to do with losing my job as a teacher? Yes. Yes, I do. I won’t tell you who I worked for, but it rhymes with “Chesterfield County School District.” I’ve got your social media policy right here, you clowns.

Anyway, Jesus said of marriage, “Anyone who divorces his wife and marries another woman commits adultery.” (Luke 16:18)

Of course, some Christians use the longer Matthew passage and a bad translation (“except for marital unfaithfulness”) to argue that divorce and remarriage is permissible, but that’s exactly why the Borg translation (let the reader understand) is, “unless the marriage is unlawful.” You can’t really harmonize Luke and Matthew in a more liberal way, unless you say Luke’s passage is in error.

Catholics should lament that so many of our faithful don’t understand how serious marriage is, and don’t care to follow our teachings, and that so many have (apparently) contracted marriage invalidly. It may also be a source of sadness that we have to say that so many putative marriages never took place, but that’s a different problem.

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